Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wanted to say no, but something just couldn’t let you do that? Unfortunately, this is common for everyone.
Not saying “No” can have a huge impact on your everyday life -you will probably end up with a lot more tasks. And when I say a lot more, I mean it. Its quantity can be described just as we are describing the number of existing ants, for example.
There are, of course, more consequences than just things stated above, and that’s why you should lay in bed and read carefully the other parts of this text.
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You have more tasks
As I mentioned before, constantly saying “yes” will just bring you more and more tasks. They can be various. From taking care of your neighbor’s children to doing someone’s homework every single day – it depends on what other people see as a thing they’ll ask you to do.
Start saying no! It can save you a lot of time and nerves, honestly. Also, there is an awesome text written by my colleague Isidora where you can find some interesting information about this topic too! Let me link it for you!
You might burn out!
Burnout is a form of exhaustion caused by constantly feeling swamped. As a person who’s experienced it, I have to say that the feeling is beyond awful! You have no energy for anything. Even if you have enough motivation, a lack of energy will be a problem. I’ve been stuck in it for quite some time, and of course, I got out of it, but it was not easy. I didn’t have enough information about it so I just let it slide and waited for it to pass along with the time.
While some think it’s a good thing, I believe it’s not. Also, on this website, you will be able to find more information about this term, as well as how to prevent it and treat it right.
It can cost you your relationship
Yup, you heard me right! It can cost you your relationship. Of course, it might seem good to say yes and to do things for your friend/partner or whatever, but actually no.
Looking long term, you will be or you will start feeling manipulated.
Saying “No” doesn’t mean that you don’t care about others, personally speaking, it shows how much you appreciate yourself and how much you care about your tasks.
In addition to this, according to Harley Therapy Psychology Website, another consequence of always saying “yes” is that you might resort to passive-aggressive behavior.
If you want any further information, feel free to check the website linked in the previous sentence.
You won’t have a good-enough focus
Whether it’s because you have a lot of things to do, multitasking, or even the presence of a feeling of compunction – your focus just won’t be what you want it to be.
We all want our focus to be perfect, but guilt will do its own thing, as always. As I told you before, I’ve been having trouble saying “No” to people and I’m very experienced at this. I know one thing for sure though, the guilt will eat you alive. You wanted to say “No!” but, for some reason, you couldn’t. Inside yourself, you’ll feel a tingling sensation, but also some kind of light pain, I don’t know how to describe it. Anyways, it will haunt you for quite some time. And if you don't want that to happen to you, follow the tips in the next heading.
Tip No. 1 – Briefly say no
This seems very simple – just say no and follow it with a sentence or two explaining why you cannot do something.
This doesn't mean you should explain everything in your life, but if it'll make you feel better, don't be shy – tell me why you said no.
Tip No. 2 – Simply say it
This is probably the hardest thing to do. You don't want someone to feel offended but at the same time, it’ll seem like you don't care about them at all!
But, believe me, it will only be hard first, second and maybe the third time, but later, you’ll be conscious that your time is as equally as worth other people’s time. Everyone defends themselves and they always look for a way to make their path towards something as easy as possible. You do that too!
Tip No. 3 – Know what your time is worth
I get it that you want to help others, but you read what it could do to you if you aren't able to stand up for yourself. Know that your time is worth it and that you are worth a lot! You are not just any person in the world – you are yourself and unique – no one is like you.
Be sure to respect other people’s time, but at the same time don’t be scared to ask for help. They say that the worst thing that can happen is that they say “No”. It’s not bad, right?
Also, don't bother people too much with your work – try to finish it alone and on time. You know, everything can be done on time if you’re organized enough.
That’s it for today folks! I hope you enjoyed this text! If you didn't, don't be scared to say “No”! 😉
See ya next time!
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*An Article was prepared and written by Balša Kićović, Textual Content Creator
